This is one of the random rambling posts that have not been seen yet but I needed to get it out.
Over the last few days I have seen some pretty disturbing things on social media. That is not to say that these things have not been going on for years because they have. I just don’t understand how as a society that we can beat each other down, especially women. As a woman, it is disheartening to see other women attacking each other, over the smallest things. I understand that we live in a world where everyone can hide behind a keyboard (yeah, the irony of this post is not lost on me, trust me), but it is heartbreaking that instead of lifting each other up, we are ripping each other to shreds. It is not worth it. As a woman there is already enough that we go through from men and societal standards that when we go after each other it is almost a slap in the face. I know you guys are wondering what the hell set me off. So here goes. . .
I was on Twitter yesterday and this girl, we will call her Jen (not really her name, I swear) attacked another one, we will call her Kate (again completely fake name) over her fitness routine, advice and goals. Jen was saying that what she (Kate) is telling other is incorrect and that she has no business giving anyone fitness advice because she is giving horrible advice (trust me the tweet was worse but I can’t find it now). Kate constantly says “this is what I do, this is what works for me. It may not work for you.” I know for a fact that some of Kate’s programs work. I have used them and they helped me to lose 20 pounds and gain a ton of muscle. So while Kate’s strategies MAY not have worked for Jen, she doesn’t need to attack Kate.
There are hundreds of people on the internet that are trying to take advantage of people and when there is someone who is simply trying to help others, we crucify them. I am so tired of seeing the simplest, minute thing being morphed into an end of the world situation. As women would should be building each other up. Sharing what works for each one of us on the internet through our blog, Instagrams, Twitters, Vines, Snapchats, Vlogs, Facebooks and whatever other platform you use is meant to HELP others. Lets be honest, getting healthy is EXPENSIVE, it’s HARD and MOST of us are not trained and don’t know how to do it properly. So we look to the internet and the ladies that have succeed for advice, tips, tricks and general support. You are more that entitled to your own opinion but instead of saying “Kate has no idea what she is talking about. She is a retard,” which is an unnecessary attack. Simply saying, “that worked for Kate but not for me. Here’s what worked for me,” is a better way to make sure we are all supportive of everyone else. I get it, society wants to get snippy but instead of automatically lashing out, stop and think how you would feel if you were the one being attacked. Put yourself on the other side of the situation and I am sure you would react completely different.
One of the things I hope this blog does is to inspire positive behavior and reactions within the fitness community and beyond. Remember we need to ENCOURAGE each other not
beat discourage whatever small accomplishments, advice, love, nurturing, help and thoughts that are given. I am open any and all thoughts, comments or words if it is going to improve me as a person. Be positive and support everyone, you never know what is going on in their life. That one mean comment, might be the one that sends them over the edge.
Thank you to those who have inspired me not to give up. Some of you don’t even know that you were a part of my life and impacted me more than you will ever know. Thank you Kalib Karns (the man that inspired the journey with a simple bet almost 3 years ago), Mama Laughlin (simply finding your blog and being inspired by your journey), Sarah Bowmar (the amazing workout and food plan that propelled my fitness journey), and JoJo Sullians (your Instagram inspires me daily to not give up). Thank you, thank you, thank you!
– FloGrown Fitness Belle